Sunday 2 November 2014

Quote of the Day

If a father brings a gift for his son both will laugh with happiness, but if a son gets his father a gift both will cry with happiness
- William Shakespeare

Being Assertive - Helps you saying 'NO'oo.... (continued)

Lazy continues to use passive the same way  on next day too then he tries to become passively aggressive n lazy speaks in helpless tone to get his help, out of kindness passive accepts work again... and this goes on for some days and lazy at last one day sends passive to another lazy person and the same continues. This shows us that a passive person will never be able to reach his destination.

Then we ll come to the story of Agg(Aggressive), similar to pass he will come across lazy and lazy tries to trick him to help in his work but agg does the work for a couple of days and starts fight with lazy, then lazy send him to the village head who is more aggressive n stubborn than agg. When agg comes across Village head due to the heavy weight of their heads they get in to quarrel easily which results in agg being thrown out of village. This way even agg had also been not able to reach destination.

Now finally we will come to the story of Ass(Assertive), when ass comes across Lazy as usual lazy asks ass to help him in his work and ass does that without any hesitation as he needs the help of lazy to reach the destination but the next morning when lazy shoulders ass with another work then ass comes up with a wonderful comment asking lazy to keep up his word as he has kept his word by helping him the last night, but still lazy insisted in making ass work but ass politely rejected (said NO) the work and started walking and this lead him to the village head coincidentally.

But when ass came across the Village head with polite and straight forward talk with absolute clarity not with agitation like agg, the head redirected him to a person named 'Smart' who is the final point in path of destination and tested smartness of ass (who is as smart as both agg and pass). Hence, this made ass reach his destination as planned in One night and a day.

So, in order to achieve anything we should learn to say NO. We can observe that ass has not said no always as he has accepted to help lazy for the first time, but when he noticed that lazy will not keep his word after promising to help him in the morning. Ass has decided that lazy cannot be trusted for route even if he helps him again so instead of behaving like agg/pass he politely says NO and walks away. Similarly we also have to learn to end up in WIN - WIN i.e., U WIN - I WIN situation.